Invest in yourself
How does being a high achiever impact you and those around you? If you are solely focused on your career, your business, or your degree, you might not be taking time to invest in yourself. By investment, I mean taking part in activities that rejuvenate your mind, spirit, and body. Things that give you perspective and level-set your everyday life.
As a high achiever, I could only focus on a few things at a time to do those things well. It was my career, family, and graduate school while I was enrolled. Mid-career, I traveled for work and with small children and a husband, when I was not traveling, I was focused on them. Except for graduate school, I was not investing in myself. In large part, this was guilt driven but regardless, it had a negative impact on me and those around me. By not taking time for myself, I was snappy, often tired, and not always happy.
When we are tired and stressed our energy reserves decline, we are less patient, less creative, and not at the top of our game. We may think that our sole focus on work is pushing us toward success when, in fact, we are less effective as a result of that sole focus.
So, what can we do about this? I have a few recommendations that I wish I had incorporated into my life much sooner than I did. First, start moving your body, if possible, outside. A brisk walk around the block will allow you to blow off steam if that is needed and get the exercise necessary for a long, fit life. Maybe you don’t have time for a walk. If not, take your cup of coffee (or Diet Coke) outside and enjoy your surroundings for 15 minutes.
Second, read a book that is unrelated to work. I usually have 2 or 3 books going at a time and one is usually something light like a beach read. The idea is to give your brain a mental break. If you are not a reader, listen to a podcast that still provides a mental break but also something of interest that takes your mind off of work.
Finally, maintain strong social connections outside of your family. Talk or meet with a friend a few times a month. If you have small children, do this without them with you. This should be someone who gives you support and perspective and who you can laugh with.
To make these activities a habit, you may need to schedule them or add them to your to-do list. Only by practicing can we make something a habit. In the end, this investment in yourself will make you a better partner, owner, executive, employee, parent, and person. Do you want to talk through how you might incorporate new habits into your life? If so, book a free session through my website.