If I could do it over
I am quickly approaching a milestone birthday which has gotten me to think about my life and, specifically, if there are things I would do differently. As I have reflected on life’s memories, I can’t help but wonder why some things that seem inconsequential have stayed with me for so long but maybe that is the point. Even small things have meaning and impact on our lives. So, here goes. My reflections through the decades.
To little Vicki. About the anonymous love note you wrote Johnny in first grade, do it again—shame on the teacher for making such a big deal out of a little note. I am pretty sure Johnny was okay with receiving it. However, do finish the entire reading assignment, and don’t pretend you did so you could finish first. Thankfully, this did not impact your life-long love of reading but was certainly a precursor of your competitive nature.
Middle school Vicki, the cool kids were not cool, they just looked like it from your seat in the cafeteria. Maybe those girls had blond hair, and blue eyes and were cheerleaders but they likely had the same insecurities that you did. Also, the nerdy kids were just different. Stop and get to know them, you will discover that what made them different was interesting. “Don’t judge a book by its cover,” but take the time to interact with the “cool” and the “nerdy” kids. You will be a better person if you do so.
High school Vicki, you should have either tried your best in Physics class or not registered for it. I know it was your senior year, but you wasted valuable time blowing off that class and, if you had tried, you probably would have found it interesting. Also, think about pursuing a career in medicine. For many years of your adult life, you will question whether or not you should have taken that path.
College Vicki, we have a trend with this next one. Statistics was a required class and I know you found it hard, but you should have tried a whole lot harder to learn as much as you could in that class. The professor was not good but blaming him for your lack of performance was a cop-out. Also, in freshman year, go to all the sessions of Ancient Civilization class. It was boring but you will do much better on the exams if you do.
To Young Adult Vicki. I know your career and having fun is important but take the time now to get involved in your community by volunteering your time and talents. You will interact with all different kinds of people and learn their stories which might be different than your story. Your life will be enriched.
What lessons have I learned from these reflections, and which I ultimately put into practice? Try your hardest at everything you do and don’t take shortcuts. Life is much more than you and you can make a huge difference in the lives of others by freely giving of your time and talents.